One of the main concerns when it comes to sex is “am I normal?” We all want to know that we aren’t alone when we are struggling with personal issues and that there are others going through the same thing. Here is a list of the most common topics I come across as a Sexologist.
1. LOW SEX DRIVE
I am forever having women come to see me with low sex drive. Whether they used to enjoy and want sex and things have changed, or they have never experienced that sexual urge. The term ‘sex drive’ is actually a term describing a few elements that make up your sexuality. Desire, libido and arousal are separate parts that make up sex drive and they can be in sync with other, and sometimes not so. Pinpointing exactly which area is lacking is the first step in boosting up that mojo!
2. LACK OF ORGASM
Lots and lots of women have never experienced an orgasm before. It can be frustrating, embarrassing and disappointing for the individual and their partners. We tend to think of our sexual value or ‘how good we are in bed’ through our ability to make our partner experience pleasure. Unfortunately for those partners who aren’t experiencing orgasm, it can be a hit to the others ego and become quite a sore point in the relationship. I believe that every woman has the ability to orgasm…it’s just a case of trying EVERYTHING to get there.
3. INTIMACY AND COMMUNICATION
When things start to become comfortable in a relationship it is easy to get lazy with each other. We stop surprising, spoiling, or delighting our partners. Usually when couples come to see me worried that their sex life isn’t as great as it used to be, it comes down to improving intimacy and sexual communication. I always say a woman should never stop flirting with her man and a man should never stop dating his lady.
4. MENS SEXUAL HEALTH
I always love it when I see I have a new male client coming in to see me. It is more common for women to address their sexual hang ups so it’s fantastic when men take control of their sexual pleasure and make a change. Things like premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, rapid ejaculation and erectile dysfunction are SO COMMON! They aren’t going to disappear if you ignore them so the best thing you can do is talk to a professional. Men’s sexual health issues either stem from a physical complication (tissue damage, surgery, injury) or a psychological/ emotional one (guilt, fear, rejection). Either way fellas…what are you waiting for?? Your amazing sex life is just around the corner!