Here are some exercises below to make change in your life:
- Practice getting outside your comfort zone
The Truth: One of the reasons we don’t change is because we do not know exactly what is going to happen. If we let fear control us we may never open ourselves up to fulfilling our life
Try this: Write down one thing you can do in the
next month that scares you, whether it’s rock-climbing, saying “no” to someone, or going out to dinner alone. Afterward, write down how taking this leap made you feel.Bonus: do it again the next month
- Imagine what things will look like after the change.The Truth: For many of us, the idea of making a change brings up feelings of fear and discomfort. It takes motivation to push past those emotional obstacles to keep going. In these moments, nothing spurs us on more than having a clear picture of how much better things will be on the other side.Try this: Imagine a day in your life after you reach your goal. Write down three ways that day will be awesome.
- Take one small step, then another.The Truth: Contemplating the enormity of all that’s before you isn’t going to propel you forward. Taking tiny steps will boost your energy and optimism. Try this: Identify one small, manageable thing you can do this week to move toward your goal, then do it. Notice the positive feelings you are experiencing. Now take another small step forward. Before you know it, change will be underway.
- Choose the right support network.The Truth: Change can be lonely when you try to handle it all by yourself. It helps to recruit people who can act as sounding boards and help you stay motivated Try this: Write down the names of two people who can give you a pep talk when you need it. Now write down two other people who would be great at helping you talk things through when you’re suffering a crisis of confidence or hit a roadblock.Bonus points: Call, text or email one of them right now to ask for help. You will be glad you did
- Expect failure — and don’t let it stop you.The Truth: When we find the courage to try something new and it doesn’t work out, it can knock the wind out of our sails. We may question whether the change is worth it, or even possible. What if we focused on how to respond to failure rather than how to avoid it?Try this: Think of a recent mistake and examine it for what you’ve learned. Then try again, using that experience. If you need help picking yourself back up, call on your support network to buoy you (see No. 4 above). Spark your motivation by refocusing on the vision you created for your future (see No. 2). Renew energy and optimism by identifying one small step you can take to move forward (No. 3). And keep finding opportunities to get more comfortable with discomfort (No. 1).